As each new year approaches, there’s always an overload of saccharine messages.
They appear in our feeds and clutter our inboxes… and they’re always the same flashing gifs and sickly, sugary images of cute teddy bears and popping cartoon champagne bottles, aren’t they?
So much about the way we welcome in the new year has become plastic and, let’s be honest, it’s all a little vomit-inducing, isn’t it?
Yes, we all need to love each other a little bit more.
Yes, we all need to make that change, realise how amazing we are and pledge never to go to sleep on an argument.
Yes, we all want 2018 to be the best year ever – just as we wanted 2017, 2016, 2015, 2000, 1995, 1988 (insert year here) to be the best yet. What are we even benchmarking this on?
Trouble with all these messages is they’re lovely the first time we see them, but after the umpteenth messenger alert with the same cutesy chain message, it all gets a bit dull and repetitive. The messages get a bit lost.
We’ve all become used to just forwarding a Hallmark-worthy social media status created by the lovechild of Spongebob and Betty Boop. We’ve stopped putting our own spin on things. We’ve stopped thinking for ourselves and considering the the awesome potential we really want to tap into and share with the world and, instead, devolved to mindlessly clicking ‘forward’.
This year, I want to encourage you to all do something a little bit different.
I want you all to have a real heart-think about what you’d like 2018 to look like for your own life.
Forget resolutions about dieting, going to the gym and journaling more – resolutions are there to be broken.
Be honest with yourself.
What do you *really* want to change/do/achieve?
How do you want to feel when you wake up every morning? What do you need to do to make that happen?
What do you want to do instead of that job you hate? How can you create that scenario
Where do you really want to be five years from now? How can you reverse engineer that
It’s time to stop moaning and start owning.
It’s time to claim your space in the world and live it as real, as authentically, as joyfully as you can.
It’s time to turn down your beige and turn up your colours.
Stop dulling your shine to fit in.
Stop living purely to please others and start pleasing yourself a little more.
Rock that boat some if you need to.
Let the world beware!
In the spirit of keeping things real, I scrapped all the chain letters and sparkly animations and came up with my own Top Ten Tips For 2018. I reckon that first one’s really important – that’s why the other nine all refer back to it.
So, here we go, Taz’s Top Ten Tips For 2018. And 2019. And 2020. And beyond.
1) Don’t be a muppet.
2) Be kind to others (see point 1).
3) If there’s something you really want to see/get/do, take on responsibility to make it happen instead of complaining about it (see point 1).
4) If you’re in business, be interested in people and build relationships instead of just pushing hard sell messages (see point 1).
5) Value yourself, love yourself a bit more and learn to help others without being a doormat OR expecting something in return (see point 1).
6) Love what you do or do something else (see point 1).
7) Be grateful for all the goodness you DO have instead of complaining about all the stuff you don’t (see point 1).
8) Sometimes you’ll experience the odd day that feels shit. This is just part of life. Take the duvet day if you need it, then do something to change your mood. It’s up to you to do this. Blaming external factors won’t help (see point 1).
9) If you keep on calling your actual dream a pipe dream, that’s exactly what it will be. (See point 1). 😉
10) Stop saying you want to be the new Tony Robbins/Oprah Winfrey/Richard Branson/Malcolm Out Loud/insert hero/guru here. Take INSPIRATION from them, sure, but stop wanting to BE them. Work on being the best version of yourself instead; you have your own unique skills and qualities to share with the world – and anyway, everyone else is already taken (see point 1).
That’s it. Have an amazing 2018.
PS: You know you don’t actually need to wait for a new year, right? It’s a man-made calendar. You can start living the life you want to live, break that habit, take that vacation, start that hobby, write that book, start loving yourself more, any time you like. Go ahead… unleash your awesome!