Love & Misery Go Hand In Hand

Relationships can be Rewarding or Miserable. On the other hand they say Marriage is an institution, though for some, it can feel like a mental institution. As we celebrate Valentine’s month the real question is “Are you in love or in misery?

Well whether you celebrate or don’t celebrate valentine’s day let’s face it, valentine’s day to many brings to surface several questions pertaining to your relationship and yes – it’s natural to feel like you’re going a little crazy when you start to question whether you are indeed in love or in misery. Don’t worry. Spending so much time in another human being’s company will not necessarily result in bouts of temporary insanity. The key is to not let these moments of relationship or marital foolishness wreck what is otherwise a healthy and loving partnership with your spouse or significant other.

The first step is to be aware that you’re not alone. All marriages are imperfect and most of them are imperfect in exactly the same ways. The list of marital problems you experience in a healthy marriage isn’t so long and most of them are pretty manageable. I have been a therapist for roughly 20 years now where I provide counseling to couples, singles, parents and teenagers, and in all the times I have met with couples married or dating there are certain problems that were recurring in all couples. In this segment I talk about the ten common problems I have seen presented by couples who seek counseling or coaching.

  1. Sex
  2. Chores
  3. Weight gain
  4. Having kids
  5. Parenting
  6. Infertility
  7. In-laws
  8. Buying a house
  9. Finances
  10. Boredom

Taking care of these problems on a day to day basis will help you answer the question: Am I in love or in misery in a more enlightened way. Valentine’s Day is an everyday experience in small and bigger gestures and actions.

To help you keep the fire burning join me on The Ultimate Couples Cruise to the Bahamas August 18-21, 2017 when we will have a couples conference at sea, with a variety of professionals who specialize in couples work.

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DrStem is a Licensed Psychotherapist, International Best Seller, Teen-Parent Expert, Wellness Coach, Certified Passion Test Facilitator, Certified John Maxwell Leadership Trainer, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Trainer, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and President/Founder of Global Counseling & Coaching Services, Inc. which focuses on speaking, training, workshops and seminars for teenagers, parents and women. She is the Host of the DrStem Show Talk Radio and Podcast on America Out Loud. DrStem “Life Plus”, is all about Motivation, Inspiration, Education, Empowerment and Encouragement. She is a teen-parent expert who understands that many teens are missing the parental or adult guidance they need during these challenging years. DrStem is on a mission to inspire, and empower teenagers and adults alike to feel the fear and go after their passions and dreams anyway. Her work is designed to bring HOPE, boosting confidence and encouraging others to live their lives Freely and Fearlessly.