It may seem crass to talk about the season of love when so many people are caught up in sadness and loss.
Whatever our personal beliefs around Covid, people *are* suffering – either through the loss of loved ones, jobs, businesses, livelihoods, relationships, maybe even hope.
And that’s precisely why I *am* going to talk about love this week.
Because, right now, while the world’s gone mad, the best thing we can do is learn to love ourselves a little more.
In the words of Henry Miller:
“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never give enough of is love.”
Lau Tzu summed it up perfectly too:
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
Couldn’t we all use a bit more strength and courage right now?
We need to remember some of the good things about being alive – perhaps some of those things we took for granted in time BC (Before Covid).
Let me throw another quote from you… this one’s from the queen of hearts herself, Diana, Princess of Wales:
“Everyone of us needs to show how much we care for each other and, in the process, care for ourselves.”
This Valentine’s season, let’s focus not just on romance but on the connection of all kinds – platonic friendships, family relationships, Mother Earth, and even our connection with ourselves.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it? And yet, the more our world spins into drama, fear, and frustration, the easier it becomes to pull away from our hearts and anchor firmly into our heads.
The trouble is, whilst the heart remains true, the head can be full of negative chatter. The heart still needs its voice – it’s the soothing sound of reason, of comfort and warmth, when the head wants to run into battle.
So, just for today, let’s turn off the TV, give ourselves some nurturing attention, and remember what it is to feel the softness of love. Let’s try to reawaken some of the goodness we might have put on ice.
Here’s an exercise that might help…
Grab a pen and paper and note down the following:
1) Something you love most about yourself (you can find something – go on, push yourself!)
2) Something you love most about your childhood.
3) Something you love most about your work.
4) Something you love most about yesterday.
5) Something you love most about today.
6) Something you love most about tomorrow (it’s not here yet, I know – be creative!)
7) Something you love most about your life in general.
8) Someone you love most and why.
That’s eight questions to answer – eight – because that’s the number of letters in ‘I love you.’
Go on. Even if you feel a bit silly, allow yourself to go there.
See what happens.
If you’re brave enough, drop me a line with your answers, or share them in the comments space for this article.
Happy heart day, people.
Until next time,
All my love,