Becoming the AUTHORity in your Life
What is a vision, and why should you have one?
A vision is where you are going. If you don’t claim something with conviction and clarity, even if it is not tangible, such as “I live life with peace.” or “I wake up fulfilled;” Then life will simply happen to you, and you wake up one day with an itchy, ache-type feeling that you are behind or missing out. When you don’t take the reigns of your own life, you will coast, and wonder why you do not feel a sense of purpose. On the other hand, when you become curious, discover, and claim what you know makes you happy, lights you up, brings you peace, then you have created a vision.
“If you don’t design your life, someone else will design it for you.” – Nigel Marsh TedTalk
Too many people fall into a trap and create visions based on society’s checklist: go to school, do well, get a great job, have 2.5 healthy kids, dog or cat, travel, be healthy, be pretty, be rich, have all the things. But are all these things YOUR idea of success or enjoyment of life? Have you ever given yourself your own permission slip to consider what success means to you, then set out to create your life aligned to that?
Here are some things to consider when beginning to really craft your OWN vision for your life.
Step 1 Become your Own Self-Anthropologist.
An anthropologist studies humans to determine key factors about their behaviour and how humans evolve. When you apply this to yourself, you watch yourself with neutral curiosity to determine what works for you, and what does not.
A vision is the claiming and creation by action and choice to weave in more and more of the things that work specifically for you. A great side-effect of doing this, is that you cease to look over at the person beside you to figure out if you are winning in life, you simply know, because winning in life is only winning if it’s a game you created yourself. You create the metrics for your success, no one else can.
Step 2 Write it down.
It’s that simple. Write these things that you like, prefer, or desire down on paper.
I recommend real pen and paper.
Step 3 Once you know what success is to you, Claim it, and Choose it Everyday.
Once you know the things that make you, well, you, your next task is to engage in the monotony of habit where you start to make your future self a part of your current day to day actions. If you want to be fit, you do one thing each day to become that reality, if you want to have more money, you read a financial book or reach out to a expert or qualified friend for tips, if you want peace, you begin a meditation practice. Quite plainly, you begin, and you keep going. No one said this part was sexy, and no one is going to throw you a parade when you act in alignment with your vision. You will know, and this deep sense of confidence and self-trust will begin to grow within you that no person or circumstance can takeaway from you. It’s very cool.
Step 4 Patience and Consistency.
Once you realize you want a certain fitness level, book written, haircut, hobby, job, vacation, ideal bedroom or house, dollars in the bank, lifestyle, experience, and whatever is on your vision list, do not get all gung-ho and extreme about it. Acknowledge you like or want these things, then simply begin to notice them more, bit by bit, by doing things that remind you of that reality or goal. This is where the popular vision boards and such come in handy, however, do not give this vision board all the power. It is up to you to claim your idea of your ideal life deeply within the fibres of your being. It is not a casual endeavour, after all, it is your life. Do the thing that you know to do each day, then watch life start to dance with you. You do the regular thing, then a whole other level of energy is available to you for living with this level of alignment.
Step 5 Watch for the signs and signals that your creations are in the works.
Synchronicity is a term coined by the Psychologist Carl Jung, who was Sigmund Freud’s protege. This phenomenon describes when seemingly unrelated things sync up, and point to what seems to be a hint from the Universe. It is like the future you, you have decided to commit to, leaves you little breadcrumbs revealing you are on the right path.
These experiences happen to me all the time, especially when I claim a vision that really lights me up, while equally freaking me out because I do not know how I will ever have the thing I want. But, I claim it anyways, simply because the idea of a certain experience or goal fills my body with enthusiasm, and lights up my soul.
Step 6 Create some Goals and Milestones because it’s FUN.
Only after you have claimed what you want, and begun the process of making it alive in your life, should you reach for a goal. The goal is simply a marker, and fun way to make the vision come alive. Do not attach your emotions or sense of self to the goal, the goal is not the goal. The goal is the little marker toward the vision. The vision is YOU, your deeper you coming into your daily life.
A vision will PULL you toward your life. Goals without vision are like pushing yourself without fuel. The vision is the fuel to make your daily actions have some oomph!
There you have it, a quick synopsis of things to consider when you want to become your own author, or authority, in your life.
Some examples of how to get started are:
- Write down what your ideal life looks like 5 or 20 years from now.
- Write down an ideal day, if you had a magic wand.
- Write down what your body, home, financial situation, relationships, pets, location, career may be. Include hobbies and interests. How do you feel?
- Write down what you could do for hours when you were a kid.
- Write down what you would be doing if money was not a factor.
- Write down the things that make you – you; your unique desires and loves, no matter what other people may think.
Let these visions come alive over time based on your daily actions, as described above. This is where accountability and coaches are great, but I must say your decision to claim a vision and act towards it is the key. Again, no one can do it for you.
When I work with clients, we work on solidifying a vision, but it is up to them to have the courage to claim what they want. It takes courage to decide. It takes heart and faith to act towards the life you want. You hereby have permission to become the author of your own life. Begin with the vision, act in alignment with the vision, flow and adapt while life co-creates this vision, and don’t forget to enjoy the journey.
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