Most people talk but find it frustrating when they are not heard. Why aren’t people listening? What do you assume when you are not heard? You assume you are not being valued. It is a cycle that happens over and over with my clients, I mean honestly it still happens in my life too, and […]

I am a recovering nice person too. You know the drill: Smile, be nice, be kind, put others above yourself, think about other people, don’t make waves, don’t make people upset, avoid conflict at all costs. Did anyone ever consider the costs of suppressing all their emotions, preferences, and eventually diminishing their sense of self-value? […]

‘The voice inside you, that you can hear louder than any other voice,’ this is my definition of Intuition. We live in a noisy world. But your inner voice is always there. Outside: screens, sounds, obligations, media, cars, kids, co-workers… Inside: self talk, criticism, shoulds, to do’s, unfinished conversations, dreams, inner-narrating and interpreting, judging… How […]

Our cute human minds have a hard time with things like Universal Laws. What ends up happening with the majority of people, is they take something that is a law-like gravity and try to squish it down to attempt to have it make sense in our itty bitty understanding. But, we can never really understand […]

There is a psychological model called “Karpman’s Drama Triangle” which reveals the dynamics most people fall into when faced with conflict. Each role, or identity, allows the individual to basically stay in victim or drama mode in order to avoid really feeling feelings, saying what they need to say with emotional maturity, or, of course, […]

Hate to, Have to, Want to, Get to, Love to… Do you ever feel bogged down? Do you run through your to do list while you are doing another thing? Do you have so many things on the go you just want to run away and do nothing? Yep, you are human. Now that that’s […]

It is normal to feel stress. It is normal to get run down from time to time. It is normal to need a break. But, what happens when your normal starts to look like overwhelm all the time? When this constant, heightened level of stress never abates, nothing replenishes your batteries, everything you try doesn’t […]

What tabs are open in your mind right now? You know, like on your computer, all the files and programs that are open. It can get pretty cluttered in your mind, just like a computer screen with multiple tabs open. And of course the intention behind having everything open is to be more effective, without […]

If you read the last post about Feeling the Feels, you were probably waiting for the instructions on how to manage your mind as promised. When we think a fearful thought, a cascade of biochemicals send information into the body that something bad is happening. Our survival mode kicks in and we become extremely reactive […]

Feelings. Emotions. Is there a difference? While the two words are used interchangeably there is actually a difference, and knowing more about their nature can empower you to navigate the roller-coaster of emotions that are a natural, normal part of living as a Human. In the 20th century, Paul Ekman identified six basic emotions: Anger Disgust Fear […]