The Great American Liar:  The Lost Art of Truth

They say “the truth hurts” but more important is that “non-truths hurt worse”! At the core of deception, lying and strategic omission of important details is my favorite topic; FEAR. The diversion of truth is to avoid the fear of a consequence, fear of hurting someone or fear of saying the wrong thing. You understand through experience that the truth can hurt and so you make a choice to avoid pain by misleading the facts. Ironically, you end up creating more of what you were trying to avoid; pain. Yes, the truth hurts; but the alternative option of deception hurts beyond measure. Americans have cornered the market on creative avoidance from the truth by choosing a path that leads in the opposite intended direction. Rather than face the facts we divert our attention to an external world wrought with confusion, denial, anger, hatred, insecurity and all things gone wild. To choose non-truth telling is to choose to destroy work relationships, marriages, friendships and compromises the relationship you have with yourself. Your chosen path of deception is a vicious, fear controlled behavior that actively chips away at the core value of our collective consciousness one story at a time. America, it is time to GET REAL! They say “the first chapter in the book of wisdom is honesty”. Can we be honest for a moment?

Are you a Great American Liar? The truth hurts, so be honest with yourself. The fact is we are telling two types of lies: 1) Great American Lie to Self and 2) Great American Lie to Others. In truth, we suck at relationships because we are not aware enough to acknowledge the lies we tell ourselves before we pass on this accumulated deception to others. The rippling effect of one small lie on top of another creates an energetic field of negativity that breeds ugliness. So why do you choose to lie? FEAR. As humans, we are great at making fear based decisions to protect ourselves from the perception of danger. Each fear based manipulation coupled with another leads to a life of duplicity. Duplicity is a cancer. It invades your inner psyche and corrodes your decision making skills. Where did we learn to be afraid to speak the truth? Wouldn’t it serve our world to learn to express ourselves kindly, honestly and with integrity? The truth hurts? Does it really?

Did you know you are deliberately attacking your brain, causing stress and harm to your body when you choose the path of deception? Lying requires a lot of effort and causes anxiety. Who wants to feel anxious? Would you choose to intentionally harm yourself? Science has proven the more you tell the truth the happier you are! Our situations suck because our decisions suck; because we are engaged in the Great American Lie. Choose your truths wisely. In a society cloaked with images of happiness, faking and lying our way to more friends, likes, followers, girlfriends, boyfriends, money, status and external happiness we actually create irritation, frustration, sadness, anger, depression and a plethora of other unwanted results.

Are you stuck in a sucky relationship that is profoundly impacted by deception? Does your life circumstance suck because you have been in denial of the poor choices you are making? Your decision to avoid truth handicaps the outcome of your life experience. Wake up to the bad behaviors that are eroding the emotional health of your world. If you want positive relationships, you have to do positive things.  With each interaction lead with respect, integrity and trust. It turns out honesty is the best policy and directly impacts your wellness. What are we afraid of? SMILE the truth helps!

Kelly Murphy Fit & Fearless Living is on a faithful mission to transform a ‘stuck in suck’ mentality and inspire the desire for fit, healthy and prosperous living. She is the author of Fear Is Horseplay, a child-like story created to inspire all ages toward fearless action. Kelly’s influence on sharing her personal story of failure, tragedy, addiction and overcoming a limiting mindset is at the core of her life’s work. In 2011 Kelly crossed the Ironman finish line with an attitude that anything is possible if you are willing to do the work. Kelly is passionate about tackling the health crisis of our nation one story at a time.