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“So What About Love?”

"A friend of God has these three qualities: A generosity like that of the ocean, A compassion like that of the sun, And a humility like that of the earth." Bayazid, Tadhkirat

The picture above represents how the energetic body—represented by the heart and the brain—interacts with another person. Imagine this in a crowd, and then imagine it world-wide. This is what happens when we express the emotions of love, gratitude, hate and prejudice.

Last week I announced on Facebook that I would no longer post political thoughts as the virulent nature of the “conversation” was infecting my life. Though I have moments when the urge to reply to something I find totally offensive rises up in me, I am firm in my belief that adding to the negative energy is damaging to me and others. So what have I chosen to turn to when that urge arises? I send compassion to the person who wrote the post. And am I finding that easy? To put it simply—hell no! And, as the quote above points out, I will learn to have humility if I want to be a “friend of God.”

I grew up Catholic, and I was a Goddess worshiper without knowing it. I could always be found at the small altar to the left of the church where the Blessed Mother’s statue stood calm and serene. Though her son was the center of attention, hanging from the awful cross, she taught me about compassion. Jesus sacrificed himself, according to Christian tradition, to save us from our sins. Mary spent her life knowing what was coming and still treated all persons with compassion and love. She released her son with love as she welcomed us into his presence. If we wanted an example of a patient and loving being, she was it. When my son was dying, it was Mary I went to—she knew how I felt. I stopped practicing my religion, but the altar in my house always had Mary represented, along with other iconic figures that inspired me.

Who inspires us now with the strength of compassion and love in the midst of the chaos that surrounds us? Starting at the top, I decided to look to past leaders. The only president in the past 50 years that came to mind is Jimmy Carter. His love of God and loving humble support for the downtrodden are not in question, Yet, when I bring him up, people use words like “weak” and “soft” to describe him. They have misjudged the power of the heart and the power of love. Love is so much stronger than hatred. Mercy and compassion trump disdain and prejudice at every turn. And even science acknowledges that the heart is the strongest organ in the body and sends more information to the brain then vice versa.

So why is love represented in our culture as mushy and unreliable? Leaders of all the primary religions acknowledge that God is love. If that is so, why do we find the angry bullies of the world so compelling? Why do we not say that those who struggle to do good works and love one another are born in the image of God, rather than denigrating them as weak? From our political process to our macho society, why are those who wave weapons of single intent or mass destruction seen as strong and powerful and those who seek peace and brotherhood are way under the radar? Certain media attempt to reward doing good with attention, but it is usually a very small part of our daily news shot. Isn’t Donald Trump a bigger pull compared to Nuns on the Bus? How many people know about the philanthropy practiced by sports figures as well as their stats?

The Global Coherence Initiative, a sister project to the Institute of Heart Math™, is one of several organizations that shows us the power of the presence of heart-centered people focused on sending healthy compassionate energy. Those ancient religions that focus on meditation have demonstrated the same thing. The power of negative energy has been shown by people like Hitler and Jim Jones and recently, Donald Trump’s ability to mobilize the darker energy of his followers. Under the radar, the latest studies focus on the energy of compassion, love and gratitude. The power of energy created by the heart can change the magnetic field of a group, an organization or a country.

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Our connecting magnetic fields tell a story

As shown in the photo, the heart and the brain’s electromagnetic field send out energy, as does their magnetic fields. The heart is the most powerful rhythmic field in the human body—over 60 times greater in amplitude than the brain’s electrical activity and 5000 times greater than the magnetic field of the brain. Our fields connect, sharing whatever emotional energy is going on in us.

Data shows that two people within an organization who have practiced breathing and sharing coherence can meet with two other people who are totally stressed. Within minutes of sitting at the table, the two stressed people will begin to relax in the presence of the two focused coherent people. In medical studies, the emotion of gratitude has been shown to lower blood pressure, heart rate, and stress levels in general, as well as a drug.

With all of this “good news” from science and psychological research around creating coherent groups, loving groups, compassionate groups, where is the emphasis in the news media? More and more shows on Trump, people doing each other in on a jungle location, “true-life dramas” featuring the rich and the infamous, and the list goes on. It’s like the last gasp of a wounded behemoth. We are fascinated by the dangerous and oddly immune to the power of love. Maybe, as we touch bottom in the pool, our toes will push us off to rise from the murky depths into the fresh air of possibilities. It isn’t hard to imagine because we can’t sink any further. Now is the time for people of good will to ask “what do we have to lose? What about love?”

Therèse Tappouni is the author of six published books—four of which have received major awards—and creator of two meditation/visualization CDs. Her latest book is The Gifts of Grief: Finding Light in the Darkness of Loss. Therèse is the founder of the company Whole Heart, dedicated to helping people live a balanced, loving and creative life. She teaches workshops for women in mid-life, grief workshops, women’s history classes, resilience workshops and one-on-one coaching created from her certification as a HeartMath® Trainer. She has also trained in many other modalities, including Somatic Intuitive Training™ and Time Dimension Therapy™