How do you do an Ironman? One mile at a time.

Millions of Americans have unconsciously chosen low level living. The choice to live in a comfort zone, ‘stuck in suck’, deal, cope and barely survive everyday life is stifling our dreams, wants, wishes and goals. Even worse low level living is negatively impacting our relationships, financial freedom and our health. The bottom line is that complacency kills! It is time to stir it up! Get OUTLOUD! Create a new normal! America, don’t die before you live. Wishing is a waste of time! Your wishes only come true when you take focused, intentional, bold and fearless action.

In a previous article, 3 of 7 steps to getting “unstuck from suck” were unveiled. We began with identifying:

WHAT: What do you want from your dream life?
WHY: Why is it important to you?
WHY NOT:  Why is it not present in your life today?

The next step in the process to getting “unstuck from suck” is to create a strategy. Strategy is simply how to. How do you make your dream a reality? How do you make your wishes come true? Most often, this step is the beginning of the end. Our mindset takes over and we begin to fear that we lack the skill or the knowledge to achieve the goal, vision, dream, wish or want. We fear failure, success, judgment, ridicule or success. America, we don’t need a wishbone we need a backbone!

Get to the root of why you are not where you desire to be and create a plan. What is getting in your way? How will you overcome the challenge? Ask yourself, where can I gain more information, insight, knowledge, education that will be useful to the process of getting unstuck? Is it a matter of developing a skillset? Do you need to earn a degree? What book would inspire purposeful action?

In 2007 a dream to write a children’s book in memory of my friend’s son who lost his life to a brain tumor was placed in my heart. I had no idea how to write a children’s book or even where to begin, so I didn’t. My dream to write a children’s book was always overshadowed by my fear. Fear of failing, making a mistake, looking stupid, being judged, you fill in the blank. In 2013, 6 years after dreaming of writing a book I found myself in a miserable J.O.B. wondering how I found the land of SUCK! In an instant, I committed to taking on this project no matter what! For ONE HOUR every night after work, I focused on action. At first, it was a daunting prospect. After my first step it led me to the next step and the next thing I knew I gained momentum. FINALLY, 9 months later Alex’s memory is honored in a book called Fear Is Horseplay.

SAY OUTLOUD: I commit to___________. No matter what; this time tomorrow I will do ____________. 

Start where you are. How do you do an Ironman? One mile at a time. Don’t think about the finish line; that will feed procrastination and quitting. Start with where you are; one step at a time. All it takes is one single action. Set yourself up for success by doing something easy to start off. Call or email that mentor; just ask! Sign up for that class. Get that degree. Tell your spouse you want to go to counseling. Hire the personal trainer. Read one hour every day. There is power in momentum and each step will lead to the next. Resist the urge to remain at rest, to remain in circle of stuck. 

Kelly Murphy Fit & Fearless Living is on a faithful mission to transform a “stuck in suck” mentality and inspire the desire for healthy and prosperous living. Email:

“Everything you want from your dream life is on the other side of fear”

Kelly Murphy Fit & Fearless Living is on a faithful mission to transform a ‘stuck in suck’ mentality and inspire the desire for fit, healthy and prosperous living. She is the author of Fear Is Horseplay, a child-like story created to inspire all ages toward fearless action. Kelly’s influence on sharing her personal story of failure, tragedy, addiction and overcoming a limiting mindset is at the core of her life’s work. In 2011 Kelly crossed the Ironman finish line with an attitude that anything is possible if you are willing to do the work. Kelly is passionate about tackling the health crisis of our nation one story at a time.