There is just always something to feel bad about, isn’t there?
We are not the ‘perfect parent’ 24 hours of the day. We perhaps have a little extra weight around our middle. Maybe we feel shame about our poor relationship choices, or our stagnating career?
How about the fact that we haven’t ticked off every item on our pre-milestone birthday to-do list?
PHEW! Let’s just take a breath, shall we? I want to step off the crazy roundabout of modern life, and talk to-the-bone about what’s really going on here. No shame. No guilt. No quick-fixes and most certainly no BS.
A lot of the guilt, pressure, and distraction in our lives is really just us being pushed and pulled by our emotions. So I want to spread the world about emotional freedom; what it is, why we need it, and how to achieve it.
And by the way, when I say “achieve” it – this is not another thing you must tick off your to-do list. There is no right or wrong, and there is certainly no shaming allowed here. This is simply about self-care, and getting real with ourselves about what it means to be human.
Yes, that’s right. We may have forgotten that we are human…
Seriously! It does happen! We forget that we are sentient, caring and emotional beings who both need and deserve love and respect in equal measures.
So, where did it all go wrong?
The issues in our lives that result in us experiencing the opposite of emotional freedom are all things that you will recognize:
- Perfectionism and need to control
- Emotional Eating
- Romantic Obsession
- People Pleasing
And the list goes on… these are but a few of our old, toxic friends! They are just some examples of the many creative ways we deal with an unfinished emotional foundation in life.
When we are lacking something on the emotional level, we distract and numb ourselves with these addictive behaviours. Unfortunately, these are also self-destructive, and only take us further away from the strong, emotional foundation that we really need to have.
So how do we get back to where we need to be?
Achieving emotional freedom is a journey, for sure. Just know that it’s okay to take your time and honour your needs as you go. Remember what I said about it not being a ‘goal’ to either achieve, or to feel shame about. We are moving past that mentality! This is about getting you better, happier, and more resilient.
Along your journey to emotional freedom, there are five really key components that we all need to work on in order to truly fill the void within and reconnect with ourselves.
The first key is Honesty & Awareness
This is all about having a reality check with yourself. Once you can truly understand where you are emotionally, you can begin to move yourself on.
So how do you ‘reality check’ yourself? Here are a few things to work on:
Try spending a little time with yourself
If you are an introvert then you may absolutely love this. However, not everyone is comfortable on their own – and that’s completely okay too.
It’s okay to find it hard – you are growing! Try starting small, just a few minutes at a time at first. But the intention here is to get to know yourself again. Get to know who YOU are, when you are not distracted by somebody else’s presence.
Build a little self-awareness into your alone time
Think of this like a mindfulness practice. Ask yourself how you feel in the moment – what do you need? What are you missing? What would you like to do with your spare time today?
This might be tricky at first, especially if you tend to people please. But learning to listen to your inner guide is a huge step towards getting to know and trust yourself.
It’s definitely a skill to develop over time. But when you start to hear your inner guide, your intuition may pleasantly surprise you! Human beings are much more perceptive than we tend to give ourselves credit for. You can trust yourself to know what you need.
If you would like to listen to myself and my good friend, Dr. Andrea Pennington, go deeper on this subject, then we have a very special webinar for you.
We will discuss all five keys to emotional freedom in depth, giving you real context and understanding to set you up for your own journey to emotional freedom. We will also be taking questions from the audience.
So if you recognised yourself in any of the above, I know that we can help you to leave some old, self-destructive behaviours behind, and set you on the right path for a happier future. Sign up for a spot here: http://bit.ly/2uP3fhR.