We don’t have time.
We don’t have time to moan and complain. We don’t have time to whinge about our lot in life, about how hard we’ve had it, about how strict our parents were, how shitty our boss is, how much we hate the government or how unfair the system is.
We don’t have time.
Unless we’re ready to really go there, to get right to the source of our issues, to go through that pain barrier, heal and rebuild, we don’t have time.
Unless our negative talk is the beginning of change; a verbalisation of our intention to do something about our current position and move to a more positive lifestyle and mindset, we don’t have time.
I’m not lacking in compassion. Honestly, I’m not. I’m just feeling more and more frustration at the levels of unconscious complaining and conscious inaction. I’m becoming less and less tolerant of society’s learned self-serving, naval-gazing bullshit.
If you truly are unhappy with the place you find yourself in and you actively want to do something about that, I am the most compassionate person on earth. I will hold you. I will listen to you. I will work with you to come up with a game plan and I’ll give you all the encouragement to get out there and make that change, whether you need self-belief, confidence, education, information, contacts or some other realistic support, I will be your biggest cheerleader.
But if you don’t want to make any changes? If you want to just complain for the sake of complaining and tell everyone how crappy your life has been, maybe play the comparison game or soak up all that secondary gain and drama addiction, nobody has time for that. That’s when you’ll be complaining in to a vacuum.
And before you start hitting out at me for being too harsh, begin extolling the virtues of catharsis and start telling me how important it can be to talk, you’re missing the point.
It’s not about bottling things up. It’s not about swallowing down our emotions or putting or past challenges into tightly-sealed boxes. Talking therapy can be massively power-full, and if someone’s at the point where they actively want that cathartic release as a way of shifting dis-ease and moving back to wholeness, that is engaging in change. That’s not complaining for the sake of it. That’s taking action to move into a new phase, and that takes courage. I absolutely support you and wish you the brightest, happiest future you could hope for.
We have a finite number of days, weeks, months, years on this planet. We only have so long to grab life by the scruff and make the most of it. We have a limited amount of time to learn all we can, to enjoy all we can, to grow and develop and love all we can.
Sometimes our toughest life challenges can be turned into beautiful teachings; our journeys through the darkness can be used to empower others, can stand as a beacon of hope to those facing difficulties of their own.
If you can find a way to flip your negatives, go ahead and do it, and then – if it feels right – share that story and let it inspire others.
If you need help dealing with difficult times in your life, changing your circumstances, or switching your perspective – go get it. There are plenty of people out there who can be of service if we’re brave enough to ask.
But if you just want to complain, if you don’t want to move from where you are, if you want to stay shackled in the moan zone, ain’t nobody got time for that business. Except, perhaps, other moaners. You’ll usually find them on Facebook.
Until next time,